有關愛情

我不愛看愛情小說, 很主觀, 因不想看「假」的愛情故事, 尤其是神雕俠侶式的, 我就受不了.

真的愛情故事, 即使不轟轟烈烈, 淡如開水一樣令人動容, 不過, 有關愛情分析的書, 卻看過一些, 這些是去年及今年看的.

我較愛看張小嫻的散文, 分析也有見地, 包括封面這一句, 愛一個小世界的小男人, 你只會退步.

這一本很有名, 不只說男女愛情:　

Finding someone to love you is like trying to fill up a tank that has a hole in the bottom. No one can ever completely fill you up, because the leak will always create more need.

John Gray的書看過3, 4本, 最好的, 不是這一本, 是那最有名的, Men From Mars, Women from Venus, 即是男女大不同. 這一句是來自Together Forever:



Direct appreciation of a man's decision and actions and forgiveness of his mistakes is the most direct route to his heart.

這一本也不全是說男女之愛, 分析朋友之間的關係就有以下的引述:



Aristotle distinguished 3 types of friendship: "friendship based on utility", such as eager, upbeat people in business cultivating each other to improve their bottom line; "friendship based on pleasure", like young people interested in partying; and "perfect friendship", the first 2 categories Aristotle calls "qualified and superficial" because they are founded on flimsy circumstances. the last - which is based on admiration for another's good character - is much more fulfilling, but also rare. After all, good friends "are few".

這一本好像不錯, 如何不錯呢, 又記不起來, 不過, 如果是好的話, 我一早已買下來啦.

深雪的散文, 偶有佳句, 她說男人是用來拍拖, 不是用來依附.

柯博士介紹素黑給我, 她的書比現在報紙的專欄好很多, 當然是因為寫多了也會才思盡吧. 這本是圖書館借來.

我覺得最好的一本中文說愛情的書, 我這樣孤寒, 不好的不會買下來. 因為是自己的書, 沒有把精句抄錄下來. Sorry.